I am not the handsomest knife in the drawer. Most times I look in the mirror, I am dismayed, but there are a few times when I think my looks rise to the level of OK. In taking a selfie for the 'about-me' page, I took many many pictures; pictures of myself almost always make me cringe. Even the one I eventually posted was cringe-inducing, though less than the others. I used to think (hope?) I had a form of body dysmorphia that was focused on my face. But recently, a woman I was mentoring (in a non-tantric/non-physical way) professed an intense attraction to me. She said she was attracted to my intellect, humor, honesty, and ability to communicate. Notice what was missing. I felt like the guy about which might be said "but he has a great personality". So much for my dysmorphia theory.

This should not have upset me; after reflection, I realized I should be thrilled that someone thought I had the qualities she found desirable. So I'm not a Chris Pine. Big deal, not many people are. What I have done and am still doing is developing the positive features I do have, the main one being communication. More about this in a later post.