What if your partner is not on board with you having tantric sessions? There is nothing magic in what I do. Your partner, if willing, can work with you the same way I would. First, a little background...

When I was a teenager with raging hormones, I would try to get as far as I could physically with my dates. Now I realize that put my dates into a passive role, acquiescing (or not) to my touches rather than directing them. I believe a lot of women have gone through similar experiences and have been trained to accept, rather than direct, advances. My work is to provide an open and caring atmosphere where my clients can learn how to take charge of their sensuality. Although sometimes more difficult because of shared past experiences, your partner can do what I would do. Here are the rules.

1. Once a week or so, you and your partner will come together for a touching session. Your partner is solely a giver, not a receiver. This is often easy for your partner, but less easy for you, as women are usually natural givers. No mutual touch; learn how to receive and only receive without guilt.
2. Start with a normal backrub/massage. There are plenty of videos on the web if your partner is unsure of how to proceed. Limit the touching to back, arms, legs, and scalp.
3. When you are ready for other regions of your body to be touched, direct your partner by verbally announcing those parts of your body you wish to be touched. This is extremely difficult to do. Your partner will likely want to proceed at a faster pace than you. You will likely be embarrassed to mention those unmentionable parts of your body. If you cannot bring yourself to say those words, practice beforehand by saying them out loud in private.
4. If and when you direct your partner to touch the area around your yoni, make sure your partner knows not to touch your clitoris or penetrate your vagina. While massaging the area (again, there are videos on the web), give a lot of direction as to what touches or strokes you like and what you do not like.
5. If, after massaging this area a good while, you can direct your partner to go further with clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation. For the first few sessions, however, try not to orgasm. Come as close as you can without reaching the point of no return. Have your partner repeat the touches that bring you close and then have your partner back off. Do this for as many times as you can. It can be exhausting.
6. Always verbalize what you like and don't like. This can lead to hurt feelings so your partner needs to be made aware that the "don't likes" are not criticisms. It helps if you can explain why you don't like a certain touch.
7. No sex after the session. These sessions are not foreplay. You have all the other days of the week for that.

That's it and I hope this helps. When both partners are active participants in sensual play, the pleasure increases exponentially!